Gratitude is a powerful force—it boosts engagement, productivity, and job satisfaction. But unchecked, it can hold you back. An excessive sense of gratitude can lead you to settle for less, avoid important conversations, and suppress dissatisfaction. Here’s how to avoid those pitfalls.

Settling for less. Being grateful for an opportunity shouldn’t mean accepting less than you deserve. If you find yourself thinking, I should just be happy to be here, reframe your mindset: I’m grateful, but I’m also ready for more. Use “I statements” to assert your value—I feel prepared to lead—and initiate proactive conversations about career growth. 

Avoiding critical conversations. Fear of seeming ungrateful can prevent you from addressing workplace issues like burnout, inequity, or unrealistic expectations. Instead of viewing opportunities as “gifts,” recognize them as acknowledgments of your hard work. Approach difficult discussions with both appreciation and self-advocacy. 

Masking negative emotions. Gratitude shouldn’t come at the expense of honesty. Set boundaries while expressing appreciation: I’m excited for this opportunity, but managing multiple deadlines is becoming unsustainable—can we reassess priorities? Acknowledging your full range of emotions fosters a healthier, more productive work environment.
This tip is adapted from “When Gratitude Leads You to Accept Less Than You Deserve,” by Lan Nguyen Chaplin and Mike Chisholm.
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