Unsolicited advice, though often well-intentioned, can feel intrusive and even undermine your confidence at work. If a colleague frequently offers advice you didn’t ask them for, how can you set respectful boundaries? Here’s how to balance openness to feedback with trust in your own expertise.
 
Frame your idea as a decision, not a discussion. Instead of saying, “I’m thinking about trying X,” say, “I’ve decided to do X because of Y and Z benefits.” This communicates that you’re sharing information, not seeking feedback or opening a collaborative process.
 
Show existing support. Mention any positive results or support from higher-ups to signal that your idea has already been validated.
 
Combine a compliment with a boundary. Regain control of the conversation with phrases like, “I appreciate your input, but I need to stick to the current plan to meet our deadlines.” Pair this with a nonverbal cue, like raising your hand briefly to indicate a pause.
 
Directly ask for what you need. Be clear about the type of feedback you are open to. For example, “I value your insight. For now, I’m specifically looking for feedback on how to improve this idea, rather than exploring alternative options.”
This tip is adapted from “When a Coworker Keeps Giving You Unsolicited Advice” by Melody Wilding
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