Reluctance to ask for help when we need it can keep us bogged down in more work than is necessary—and ultimately lead to burnout. Whether you’re afraid of seeming needy or incompetent, or you just don’t trust others to help you, here are some strategies to help you reach out for assistance when you really need it.

* Identify and unpack your limiting beliefs. Ask yourself: What am I afraid will happen if I ask for help? These fears are likely emotional, not rational. Reflect on what’s underlying them.

* Try small experiments. Make small behavior changes to see the impact on how you feel and the response you get from others. It can be as simple as asking, “Can I brainstorm with you for five minutes?” or “Would you be willing to take a look at my client proposal and share your feedback with me?”

* Be open. Let trusted colleagues know that you’re working on getting better at asking for help. Being up front will make it easier for you to actually do it when the time comes. It will also prime them to be more receptive to these requests, reinforcing your help-seeking behavior and reducing your reluctance to reach out for support.
This tip is adapted from “How to Get Better at Asking for Help at Work,” by Rebecca Zucker

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